Life is …What you make it or what your destiny makes it?

  Life is a vicious circle. You are born as one form of life in one birth and as a different one in another. According to the scriptures (Hindu mythology to be specific), there are 84, 00,000 forms of life, of which 40,000 belong to mammalian class. Of those 40,000, it is only once that we are born as a member of the human specie. Specie that entails traits such as the ability to think and perceive, and do what we think of, dream of. Most of us know this fact, but, what we tend to ignore this in the goal-no goal race. We keep on running 24 hours and 365 days for a reason we are unaware of. For some the goal is to reach the heights, the height of which is not known even to them. Others are running to follow these intellects. Despite knowing so much about life and ourselves sometimes we get drained by one instance or one emotion that we make it the only factor in shaping our life. We might get bogged down with it or face life with tenacity to win. In the past two days I got to know four different people and that one instance that has helped (read forced) them to give a different shape to their life. Surprisingly, all these instances and people make me have a different view of life. I am bemused! 

One gal who has been fighting with life everyday, waiting for death to take her away from this deadly world. Although frustrated, yet doing the everyday chores with the little resources God has bestowed her with. Her pick-up line – I am single but not virgin, life has fucked me! Fair enough, I agreed that life has actually done wrong, with no fault of her. So, it’s pretty ok to have such abomination. But even then I solace her saying that you are an inspiration for others who get depressed by the toughs in life, so move on, and show your presence to the world. Do what God has sent you for. Perform your part and accomplish the motive of your life. My feelings – She is a sadist and firebrand. 

Another person who has been living with blood cancer for the past 50 years, fought with her parents to live life her way. Married a co-worker and boycotted by her family, today she is the proud owner of a renowned chain of saloons in Delhi NCR. Had she got disheartened with the life’s tight slap, she would be living on other’s sympathy. But, she took that instance as a challenge and showed the world, that she is a woman of substance. She made her presence feel despite of her deadly disease. She fought with it gracefully and lived the motive of her life. My feelings – She is an inspiration. 

There is yet another lady, Manju (name changed for privacy) who has been left in lurch by her husband. She is now sharing home (read bed) with an unknown man, just because she didn’t have enough money to get a roof on her head. For similar reasons and so called social pressures she got her 13 year old daughter married to a psycho, who has attempted to kill his own and sister’s little kids. After 3 years of marriage, the little girl 16 by now dies during her second delivery. Manju has no other option but to put her daughter’s kids into an orphanage. What a fate! (Sarcastic) My Feelings – What the hell? 

I always believed “Life is what you make it”. There was nothing called destiny in my dictionary. It is we who can give life the right shape. It is we who can trifle around or set a goal to achieve with perseverance. And, the first two instances strengthened my belief. But when I heard about Manju, I was petrified. She was at no fault. Had I been in her situation what else would I do? I had no answers. I felt like mere zealot. 

I have yet another story to foreground my belief in ‘karma’ rather than destiny. Ashok, who belonged to a middle class family, earned his living by giving tutions to school and college going children. His earning went upto 30K per month, not bad in a small city that he belonged to. Destiny, as it is referred, played a game; he met an accident and went into coma for two odd years. When he woke up from his long quietus, he was shocked. Ashok lost all his customers (read students) moved to some other coach in the city, which was but obvious. And, Ashok instead of getting bogged down with loss in his business he used his primary skill of motivating people. Earlier he used to motivate his students and now he is paid for motivating employees of various companies. Today he is the highest paid person in the city. My feelings – Hats Off! 

What should I conclude now? Is it the destiny that played its trick or is it Ashok’s self motivation that worked for him? I guess it is more of self-motivation and determination that guides a person to achieve whatever he/she wants in life. Destiny does play its own role in whatever form it is. But, what is more important is how you grapple the situation. It is your life and it completely depends on you – Break it or Make it!  

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